UPDATE: A college student’s chaotic living situation has sparked tensions, with her host demanding immediate action for her to move out. In a letter to advice columnist Eric Thomas, a frustrated homeowner detailed a series of incidents that have escalated over the past several months.
The issues began when the student moved in last January 2023 under the pretense of staying for only a semester. However, the arrangement has turned sour, with the host reporting that the student has left her belongings scattered throughout the apartment and has shown disrespect by failing to clean up after herself.
The homeowner recounted a specific incident involving hair left in the bathroom that led to a significant confrontation. “She walked around my house for weeks angry with me,” the homeowner expressed. Their relationship deteriorated further when the student slammed the door in her face during a recent exchange.
Key Facts:
– The student has been living in the host’s home for over seven months.
– The host has repeatedly requested that the student move her nine large boxes out of the living room, but she has refused.
– Tensions have escalated to the point where the student is now refusing to communicate or do her chores.
The homeowner is now at a breaking point, stating, “I want her to leave. She’s just plain rude.” With the end of the semester approaching, this might be the ideal time for the student to find alternative housing.
Thomas advises that the homeowner should clearly outline her expectations and set a timeline for her guest to vacate the premises. He also recommended involving the student’s mother, the homeowner’s cousin, to ensure that the student understands the seriousness of the situation.
In a separate inquiry, another reader named No Aromas, Please shared a troubling experience during a recent visit to a friend. The guest, sensitive to scents, reported that overwhelming fragrances from fabric softeners in the guest linens resulted in a sleepless night.
“No Aromas” is seeking advice on how to approach the issue without offending her friend, as she hopes to maintain their rekindled friendship. Thomas suggests a few options, including bringing her own linens or directly communicating her sensitivities to her friend, emphasizing the importance of clear communication in maintaining healthy relationships.
Both situations underscore the critical need for open dialogue in shared living arrangements and friendships. As tensions rise in personal spaces, the impacts on mental well-being can be significant.
Next Steps: Readers are encouraged to share their thoughts on these dilemmas, as the urgency for resolution is palpable in both cases. For anyone facing similar challenges, now is the time to address them before they escalate further.
For more advice, questions can be sent to R. Eric Thomas at [email protected] or P.O. Box 22474, Philadelphia, PA 19110. Follow him on Instagram and sign up for his weekly newsletter at rericthomas.com.
