UPDATE: Thanksgiving is just around the corner, and the age-old dilemma of kitchen etiquette is reigniting tensions among hosts and guests. With many homes sporting open floor plans, issues are arising as guests wander into kitchens during meal preparation, causing frustration and sanitation concerns.
Recent inquiries to Miss Manners highlight this urgent issue, particularly for those hosting family gatherings like Thanksgiving. One concerned host expressed distress over a repeat offender—an aunt who hovers in the kitchen, touching food and sampling dishes before they are ready. This behavior not only disrupts the cooking process but also raises hygiene concerns for family members like her husband.
In response, Miss Manners suggests practical solutions. She recommends using well-placed screens to cordon off kitchen entrances or designating someone to engage the aunt with conversation or a cooking task. This approach could foster a more enjoyable atmosphere for both the cook and the guests.
Meanwhile, another host expressed frustration over guests who disregard dining etiquette by encouraging others to eat before everyone has been served. The host’s polite request to wait for all guests to receive their meals often falls on deaf ears, leading to irritation. Miss Manners counsels a simple yet effective response: “Thank you; I will in just a moment.” This reinforces the importance of waiting without escalating tensions at the table.
The conversation around these etiquette challenges is particularly pressing as families prepare for holiday gatherings. The emotional impact of these interactions can greatly affect the joy of the occasion. As Miss Manners pointed out, while it may be tempting to call out those who disrupt the meal’s flow, maintaining a calm demeanor is essential for a pleasant Thanksgiving.
As these dilemmas unfold, hosts are encouraged to consider their strategies now, ensuring a smooth experience for everyone involved. With Thanksgiving approaching on November 23, 2023, effective planning is crucial for fostering gratitude and enjoyment at the dinner table.
Stay tuned for more updates on holiday etiquette as we move closer to the festive season.
